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Roommate Agreement
Note: This is a residence-hall living agreement, not a legally binding lease. It is a tool to help you and your roommates communicate expectations and resolve conflicts. An off-campus lease is a separate legal document managed by your landlord.
How to Use This Agreement
- Sit down together in person during the first week of the semester. Ideally, have this conversation within the first few days of move-in while everyone is still getting settled.
- Fill out the form together. Talk through each section. If you can't agree on something, leave it blank or write your own compromise. The goal is consensus, not perfection.
- Print and sign. Print a copy for each roommate. Everyone signs the same copy and puts it somewhere visible: taped to the door, pinned on a bulletin board, or saved on a shared drive.
- Give a copy to your RA or residence life staff. They have it on file in case you need to refer back to it later.
- Refer back to it when conflicts arise. When someone is upset, the agreement is proof that you all agreed to the same expectations. It removes the guessing game.
- Revisit mid-semester. Schedule a roommate check-in around week 6–8. Things change. Maybe your sleep schedule shifted, or a guest policy isn't working. Update the agreement together and both sign the new version.
What to Do When Someone Breaks the Agreement
Stay calm and bring it up within 48 hours. The sooner you say something, the less resentment builds up. Choose a quiet time, not when you're angry or busy. Sit down and say: "I noticed [specific thing], and we agreed that [what the agreement says]. Can we talk about how to fix this?"
Listen to their side. Maybe they forgot, or they have a reason you didn't know about. Ask questions. Be open to compromise.
If you can't resolve it, involve your RA. Your resident advisor is trained in roommate conflict and is there to help. They won't punish anyone; they'll help you both find a solution you can both live with. You can also ask your RA to sit with you during the conversation to make sure it stays respectful.
Document it. If the same issue keeps happening, write down when and what happened. This helps your RA understand the pattern.
Frequently Asked Questions
When should we sign the roommate agreement?
Sign during the first week of the semester when you arrive on campus. Sit down in person with all your roommates, fill out the agreement together, and give a copy to your RA or residence life staff. The sooner you do it, the better: it sets expectations from day one.
What if my roommate breaks the agreement?
Bring it up within 48 hours of the issue in a calm, private conversation. Have a direct talk first. If it doesn't improve, involve your RA or resident director. They're trained to mediate and help you both find solutions. Don't ignore it or let it build into resentment.
Can we change the agreement after signing it?
Absolutely. Schedule a mid-semester roommate check-in (around week 6–8) to revisit and update the agreement together. As relationships and circumstances change, the agreement can too. Just keep communicating and make sure everyone agrees on changes.
Is this a legally binding contract?
No. This is a residence-hall living agreement between roommates, not a legal lease. It's a conversation starter and a reference point for resolving conflicts. Off-campus leases are separate legal documents handled by landlords and tenant law. Check with your housing office about your school's policies.
What if we can't agree on something?
Compromise is key. Your agreement should reflect what works for everyone. If you're stuck on a topic, leave it blank and move forward; you can revisit it later or ask your RA to suggest options based on what other roommates do. The goal is living together peacefully, not winning an argument.
Can I use this if I'm in a suite or triple?
Yes. If you have more than two people, add each person's name at the top and make sure everyone signs. Some sections (like "the other roommate") will need tweaking for your situation, but the framework works for any size shared room or suite.
Sources
- Rutgers University Residence Life: Roommate Agreements
- Elon University Residence Life: Roommate Agreements & Conflict Resolution
- College Express: How to Make Your Own College Roommate Agreement
- Amber Student, The Ultimate Roommate Agreement: What It Is and Why You Need One
- Roompact: Example Roommate/Suitemate Agreement Questions